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Raise Kids Who Know
They freeze because nobody gave them the words.
- Calm words: for the moments kids freeze
- Real school moments: the lunch line, recess, the bus
- One page at dinner: then act it out together
- A line for home: so they tell you the same day
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How to use
Pick a page. Read it at dinner.
Talk about it, and let them answer in their own words.
Then act it out, like a fire drill. You play the kid in line. They say the words. Then swap.
Tomorrow, a new page. That's it.
What's inside
Real school moments, told as short illustrated stories, with calm words kids can use and an easy way to practice together.
Moments like:
- A kid shoves them in line.
- Someone calls them a name.
- A group won't let them play.
- A grown-up thinks they did something they didn't.
- A friend wants them to keep a secret from you.
- Telling you the same day.
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Sound familiar?
It wasn't a big deal. It's just school.
That's what they say at dinner. But weeks later you hear the real story, from somebody else.
- "Nobody saw it," so nothing happens
- They got in trouble for reacting
- They asked you to please not tell the teacher
- "Just ignore them" didn't work
How it usually goes
STAGE 1
It Happens Where Grown-Ups Aren't
In the lunch line. At recess. On the bus. A shove, a name, a "you can't sit here."
STAGE 2
They Freeze, or Shove Back
Ignoring is silence. Shoving back is the only part a grown-up ever sees. Nobody gave them anything in between.
STAGE 3
They Stop Telling You
"It's just school." They're scared telling will make it worse. So they carry it alone.
How it works
Three calm sentences, practiced at home
Not talking back. Not tattling. Not fighting. Calm, polite and smart. The whole book comes back to the same three calm sentences.
For the kid
Calm words for the moment
Short, polite words they can say. Then they walk to a grown-up.
For the grown-up
Explain what happened
A calm way to tell a teacher, even when they're the one being blamed.
For you, the same day
Bring it home
A simple way to come to you and tell you. The last one matters most.
And there's a part for you, too: what to say back, so they keep coming to you.
One page at dinner. Like a fire drill.
Read One Page
One school moment. A short story with pictures. The calm words.
- Pick any page
- Read it together
Talk About It
Let them answer in their own words.
- No right or wrong
- Just talk
Act It Out
You play the kid in line. They say the words. Then swap.
- Keep it short
- Silly is fine
They Already Know
The next time someone shoves them in line, the words are already there. So are you.
- Calm, not frozen
- Want to tell you
Why this book?
Calm words vs the usual advice
| Raise Kids Who Know | "Just ignore them" | "Hit back" | |
|---|---|---|---|
| Gives them words to say | |||
| Calm and polite | |||
| Brings a grown-up in | |||
| Practiced at home first | |||
| A sentence for telling you |
Why practice works
What the research says
Not middle school. It peaks around third grade.
Bullied, picked on or left out, as their parents report it.
One of the most helpful things bullied kids did.
Sources: Olweus 2019 (20,000 US students) · National Survey of Children's Health 2016–17 · Youth Voice Project
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100% Money-Back GuaranteeQuestions parents ask
Straight answers before you start
Won't speaking up just make it worse?
"Just ignore them" usually doesn't make it stop. "Hit back" gets the wrong kid in trouble. This book gives them something in between: calm words, walk away, get a grown-up, and tell you. So they're not the one who ends up in the office.
Isn't this teaching my kid to tattle?
No. Tattling is trying to get someone in trouble. Telling is getting help. The words in this book are for getting help, calmly and clearly.
My kid won't sit through a lesson.
It's not a lesson. It's one short story at dinner and a quick talk. Then you act it out together, and they get to play the kid who knows what to say.
What if a teacher thinks my kid did it?
The book covers that moment. A calm kid is easier to believe, so it shows them how to explain what happened without getting upset.
Is any of it scary?
No. It sticks to school moments kids already know: the lunch line, recess, the bus. And it always lands on calm words and a kid who knows what to do next.
Why buy 2 or 3?
One for your house, and one for Grandma's or the other parent's house. Same pages, same words, so your kid hears the same thing everywhere.
What if it's not for us?
Read it together for 30 days. If it's not for you, email us for a full refund.